Get you priorities straight!! Have you ever heard that one before?? Well I have, and it rings through my scattered brain every Friday without fail. Every time Friday rolls around, I get to revisit where my priorities lie. I personally hate Fridays. It is payday, and it is also the day when I have to sit down and figure out to the last penny what will be paid, and what won’t. There used to be a day when we went and got what we wanted and then paid bills with what was left. Sadly those days are gone. Somewhere along the line we became more responsible and kissed the days of living la vita loca goodbye. Bottom line, every decision I make is made with my husband’s input. I may do the math and the organization, but I give him final approval even offering several different scenarios.
When figuring out where the money is going to go, I have to prioritize what is the most important for that week, and what to let slide. For example, you absolutely have to have a place to live. So the house payment trumps just about everything else. The vehicle payment must be paid because you need a mode of transportation. It is a good idea to keep the utilities paid because truly at 34 degrees or lower, who wants to be without heat?? Not I said the frog. My truck driving husband thinks his cell phone bill should trump all because he is on the road and needs it desperately. Actually, I get the necessity of having a cell phone however, T mobile charges one unG0dly amount each month for the privilege of having coverage nationwide, and unlimited everything. His list of priorities definitely differ from mine on that score. While I am rooting for internet, internet, internet so I can update my website, he is moaning cell phone, cell phone, cell phone. When it gets down to it you have to prioritize to ensure you have shelter, warmth, and food for your belly. Anything else is comes after that.
At the end of the day I eventually get it all figured out. If this was a perfect world I would be able to tell you that there is enough money for everything and that everything is paid up to date. Unfortunately, that is just not how life works. I will say that by the time I have decided on a course of action, I stick to it to the letter and usually feel good about what I was able to accomplish.
If you are looking for what my priorities are in general, my kids and husband are number 1. They come first in all instances. Once everyone else has been taken care of, the bills that are going to be paid are paid, and everyone has what they need…then and only then do I worry about me. I will say there are exceptions to that rule too. For example, when “Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part 2” was released on DVD, you can bet I had my happy a$$ at the store picking up my copy as soon as the doors on my son’s bus had closed and the bus was on its way down the road. What can I say? I do have my weaknesses. When it comes to money, every now and then I simply can’t resist a small indulgence. That was one of the rare times I told my husband what I was doing instead of asking his opinion. On the most part we are aligned in our priorities and I think that is why our marriage works. When we stand together, we can accomplish anything. Until next time when I give you another glimpse into the life of a trucker’s wife.
As much as I love the Harry Potter books and movies, it is little wonder that the first thing that popped into my head when faced with this weeks blog hop challenge was the mystical mirror of Erised. Harry discovers it in an abandoned classroom in the first installment of the Harry Potter series “The Sorcerer’s Stone”.
All of the inscriptions on the mirror’s frame are inscribed backwards so when reversed it actually reads “I show not your face but your hearts desire”. Even the name of the mirror is actually desire spelled backwards. According to Albus Dumbledore, the headmaster at Hogwarts, the mirror shows only your deepest and most desperate desires of your heart.
As I contemplated the topic more, I wondered to myself exactly what I would see if I happened to peer into the depths of the mirror. What mystery would I uncover?? Would it be obvious, or something I subconsciously desire more than anything else. Deep within my heart, I believe I would be much likeHarry Potter. Although I had the pleasure of knowing and growing up with my family, they have since died. My guess of my deepest heart’s desire would be to be reunited with my family again. Not only reunited, but where they were all happy and whole with no worries and no sickness to plague them. It would show us all together celebrating holidays and life.
It would also be possible for me to see myself being successful doing what I have discovered I love doing best…creating, designing, and writing . In that sense I would see much the same vision that Ron Weasley saw. I would be successful, popular, sought after for my skills, and well loved.
If I really want to delve into my deepest desire…it would be to once again have someone who takes care of me and worries after my welfare much as I always take care and worry about everyone else. Before my parents died, they fulfilled that role in my life. I could always rely on them to be there for me and take care of me. If I was sick, they were there to bring me cold medicine when I couldn’t afford it, make sure I went to the doctor, or when something went haywire with my vehicle they were there to help sort it out. Since their deaths, I have no one to rely on but myself. I desperately miss that care and devotion. I miss the companionship they gave me. I miss them period. If I want a birthday or Christmas present, I have to buy it myself. If I want decorations, I have to put them up. If I want a birthday cake, I must bake it myself. You get the picture. It isn’t quite the same as having someone surprise you.
What do you most desire? Wealth? Love? Fame? Time alone? Family? Albus Dumbledore also stated that the happiest person in the world would see themselves exactly as they are. In my mind, that would be a rare sight indeed. Until next time when I give you another glimpse into the life of a trucker’s wife.
The girls over at Blogging for Fun have challenged me to write about what I love. Since I make a pretty constant practice of proclaiming my undying love for my husband and kids, I thought I would focus on some other stuff I love instead.
I love music! I love anything with a beat, and anything with a message that stirs my heart. When I was growing up I got into my head that I wanted to learn to play the piano, so I taught myself how to read music to play…well. I used to love and sit and play every single song in a songbook. The harder the piece the better. I also love anything with a beat that rocks or has a message that rocks my soul. I love to sing along at the top of my lungs while bopping to the beat. I also discovered a new passion playing the drums on the game Rock Band for Wii.
I love to crochet!! The harder the stitches, the more challenge, the more fun it is! That was something else I made up my mind I wanted to learn how to do. My mom bought me a book when I was young and I sat down and taught myself. There is nothing better than working on a project while watching a movie on a cold winter evening.
I love movies!!! I love to laugh, so I love comedies. The funnier, the better!! I have a vast collection of movies that continue to grow. If I love it, or it touches me, I have got to have it!!!
I love to read. My favorite series by far is theHarry Potter books by J. K. Rowling. I love the whole magical world of Hogwarts. I love the movies! I love the movie “Gone With the Wind”, the book of the same title, and the sequel. I love anything written by Danielle Steel, Debbie Macomber, and Nora Roberts. I have a whole slew of favorite authors, but those are the top ones that come to mind.
I am a big kid, and I love games. What began as a favorite past time with my mom and dad continues to this day with my own kids. I love to play cards, Lego games, and board games.
I love to cook! I love to make a recipe my own!! I have a collection of favorite recipes that I have perfected . The only downside of this love, is that I hate doing dishes. Got to take the good with the bad with that one.
I love to write. I love to work on my website from the posts to the design to the music that brings it to life. I love the whole creative process.
Although I love my dogs, I have loved catssince birth. I am fascinated with their big long bushy tails and love to entice them into singing a few bars for me. I love their “make me like you!” attitude which is so much like my own.
I am one of those nut jobs that love winter and the beauty of snow. I would rather freeze my a$$ off than roast to death. I love Christmas and the magic of a Christmas snow.
Last but certainly not least, I love to laugh! Just like the old dude in Mary Poppins, I would be dancing on the ceiling if it were possible literally laughing my a$$ off at the tiniest things until tears are streaming down my face and I am literally choking on myself. I love being silly, and it seems I get sillier with age. Mooning is definitely not out of the question. I love to proclaim that I am a few sandwiches short of a picnic or loony as a tune, because that is exactly what I am and proud of it. I tend to live life having more fun than a one legged man in an ass kicking contest just because life is to short not to. Until next time when I give you another glimpse into the life of a truckers wife.
When figuring out where the money is going to go, I have to prioritize what is the most important for that week, and what to let slide. For example, you absolutely have to have a place to live. So the house payment trumps just about everything else. The vehicle payment must be paid because you need a mode of transportation. It is a good idea to keep the utilities paid because truly at 34 degrees or lower, who wants to be without heat?? Not I said the frog. My truck driving husband thinks his cell phone bill should trump all because he is on the road and needs it desperately. Actually, I get the necessity of having a cell phone however, T mobile charges one unG0dly amount each month for the privilege of having coverage nationwide, and unlimited everything. His list of priorities definitely differ from mine on that score. While I am rooting for internet, internet, internet so I can update my website, he is moaning cell phone, cell phone, cell phone. When it gets down to it you have to prioritize to ensure you have shelter, warmth, and food for your belly. Anything else is comes after that.
At the end of the day I eventually get it all figured out. If this was a perfect world I would be able to tell you that there is enough money for everything and that everything is paid up to date. Unfortunately, that is just not how life works. I will say that by the time I have decided on a course of action, I stick to it to the letter and usually feel good about what I was able to accomplish.
